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gameinfo:table_ettiquette [2022/07/11 13:49] – [“But it’s what my character would do!”] restlessgameinfo:table_ettiquette [2025/06/05 16:05] (current) – [The top rule: don’t be a dick] restless
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 Let's not call it a "social contract," let's just call it etiquette so everyone has fun. Let's not call it a "social contract," let's just call it etiquette so everyone has fun.
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 +==== Rules of the table ====
  
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-===== The top rule:  don’t be a dick =====+=== The top rule:  don’t be a dick ===
  
-{{ :images:meme:dont-be-a-dick-just-be-nice-its-that-easy-quote-1.jpg?direct&120|Don't be a dick.  Just be nice, it's that easy.}} If you sum everything up to this top rule, we'll likely get along fine.  We're getting together to play a game together and enjoy one another's company, this shouldn't be hard.+{{ :images:meme:dont-be-a-dick-just-be-nice-its-that-easy-quote-1.jpg?direct&120|Don't be a dick.  Just be nice.  It's that easy.}} If you sum everything up to this top rule, we'll likely get along fine.  We're getting together to play a game together and enjoy one another's company, this shouldn't be hard.
  
 If you have to get a lot of clarification on what is involved in being a dick, or want to split hairs on what might be dickish, you //just might// want to look within on this one because I suspect you truly have the answers to this if you dig deeply enough.  Coming at this in bad faith is a dick move, after all. If you have to get a lot of clarification on what is involved in being a dick, or want to split hairs on what might be dickish, you //just might// want to look within on this one because I suspect you truly have the answers to this if you dig deeply enough.  Coming at this in bad faith is a dick move, after all.
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-===== Now that's out of the way... ===== 
  
 === The keyword is “respect” === === The keyword is “respect” ===
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   * **Respect the other players.** \\ Everyone is here to have fun, just like you.  Respect them, their belongings, decisions, culture, beliefs, etc. \\ \\   * **Respect the other players.** \\ Everyone is here to have fun, just like you.  Respect them, their belongings, decisions, culture, beliefs, etc. \\ \\
-  * **Respect people's desire to stay safe.** \\ If you are playing in a face-to-face session we ask that all attending are vaccinated against COVID-19 and influenza.  If you are unwilling to do so please stick to virtual sessions only. \\ \\+  * **Respect people's desire to stay safe.** \\ If you are playing in a face-to-face session we ask that all attending are **vaccinated** against COVID-19 and influenza.  If you are unwilling to do so please stick to virtual sessions only. \\ \\ Also, don't bring firearms, swords, knives or other weapons to games.  This isn't a LARP, so those have no place at the table. \\ \\
   * **Respect people new to the game.** \\ You were new to the game once too, and needed time to learn.  Respect players and let them make their own decisions in the game. \\ \\   * **Respect people new to the game.** \\ You were new to the game once too, and needed time to learn.  Respect players and let them make their own decisions in the game. \\ \\
   * **Respect the home or place of business of the host.** \\ Wherever we're playing, we've been allowed to gather there to play together.  Respect that and their place, and leave it in at least the same condition you found it. \\ \\   * **Respect the home or place of business of the host.** \\ Wherever we're playing, we've been allowed to gather there to play together.  Respect that and their place, and leave it in at least the same condition you found it. \\ \\
-  * **Don't bring firearms, swords, knives or other weapons to games.** \\ Another item that should go without saying, but we are in Texas after all, so it bears repeating. \\ \\ 
   * **Respect the game.** \\ Don't just cause trouble, attack other characters or cause problems for the Hell of it.  If it's not working out for you, that's fine, but don't make a nuisance of yourself just because you're not in the spotlight or things aren't happening the way you think they should.  [[gameinfo:faq_prospective_players#being_edgy_or_where_s_the_tieflingdragonborndrow_elf_or_can_i_play_an_evil_character|(See also.)]]   * **Respect the game.** \\ Don't just cause trouble, attack other characters or cause problems for the Hell of it.  If it's not working out for you, that's fine, but don't make a nuisance of yourself just because you're not in the spotlight or things aren't happening the way you think they should.  [[gameinfo:faq_prospective_players#being_edgy_or_where_s_the_tieflingdragonborndrow_elf_or_can_i_play_an_evil_character|(See also.)]]
  
 +=== Phones are okay, but put them on vibrate ===
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 +If you need to take a call or text a lot please step away from the table.
  
 +Note that during play your turn will not be held and will just be assumed to be doing nothing other than passively following the rest of the party.
  
 === What happens in the real world stays in the real world === === What happens in the real world stays in the real world ===
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-=== Phones are okay, but put them on vibrate === +==== Don’t.  Just... don’t. ====
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-If you need to take a call or text a lot, please step away from the table.  It's distracting to other players and if it becomes a problem you'll be asked to leave the table and/or game. +
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-Note that during play your turn will not be held if you are away using your phone, you will just be assumed to be doing nothing other than passively following the rest of the party. +
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-=== Rules lawyers suck, period, full stop === +
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-So do most of the [[dict>stereotypes_gamer|gamer stereotypes]], but [[dict>rules_lawyer|rules laywers]] are //by far// the worst.  Just... don't.  (He who lives by the sword dies by it.  Repeatedly.) +
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-=== You have to hang with the big boys === +
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-If you can't hang with [[definitions#old-school_gaming|old-school gaming]]   then there will be problems.  For instance, if you can't handle that character fatalities can and do happen then this isn't the game for you.+
  
 +{{page>rules_lawyers_suck}}
  
 {{anchor:edge}} {{anchor:edge}}
-=== Being pointlessly edgy, running an antisocial character and playing “evil” characters in general === +{{page>edgelords}} 
-{{ :images:meme:AllEdgeNoPoint.png?direct&150|Don't be that person.}} +{{page>biwmcwd}}
-We're all here to have fun and play a game.  For some it's not fun to have someone else in the party who is edgy or brooding //just// to be edgy or brooding, or going around stealing from party members, attacking them or causing trouble with NPCs.  (I'll admit it's not fun for a lot of DMs, either.) +
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-I know you're supposed to roleplay, but having to watch your back against the world and compatriots or suffer the consequences of someone who is random for no purpose but their own edification is just... exhausting.  [[:gameinfo:table_ettiquette#the_keyword_is_respect|It's also not fun.]]  At the table, let's agree that the party are all allies and we //**hunt**// the monsters, not //**be**// the monsters. +
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-=== “But it’s what my character would do!” ===+
  
-Think about it.  Then think about it again.  Then think some more.  [[#dick|I can't really think of any situations where using that phrase to defend your character's actions is valid for a friendly game.]]  If you still insist, then //[[#edge|play another character]].// +==== Miscellaneous and sundry ====
-=== Not all games are for everyone ===+
  
-When a new player joins a gaming group it's a bit like dating:  sometimes the fit is right, sometimes it's not.  Even though this is intended to be an [[dict>open_table_game|open table]] game with a shifting cast of players who may be regulars, play occasionally or even only once, we all still need to get along.  If you are not enjoying the game style, old-school rules or just another player, let's talk about it.  I suspect we can come to some resolution or understanding that is acceptable.+{{page>a_psa_for_old-school_gaming}}
  
-However, the reality is that if we can't work it out maybe this just isn't the game or group for you.  Trust me, no gaming is better than bad gaming, and life is too short to do something you don't enjoy.  I want to game to have fun, and I want everyone at my table to have fun!+{{page>not_all_games_are_for_everyone&notags}}
  
  
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